A Happier Update

Apart from the last post life is pretty good. I was pretty stressed for a while because David so desperately wanted to move home. He hasn't adjusted so well to life in the Beef Capital, but then again it isn't exactly my favorite place either. This, however, is where we are at this point in time and whilst it isn't forever, it isn't such a bad life.

I have spent the majority of this school term looking for work back home. I promised David I would, so I did. Even had a few phone interviews and lots of interest. Apparently I'm "hot property". As much as I wanted David to be happy, it just didn't feel right at this point in time to move home. But he is my world and so must come first. Jobs come and go, but family is forever.

I guess God had other plans for us, because He has provided the means by which David is happy to stay, and the pressure is now off me to find work (it is easier for me to find full time work being a teacher). My wonderful, most beautiful Aunty made it possible for David to have a job interview for a Dock job (logistics), and the powers that be really liked David. He now has a full time job at Yeppoon by the beach working week days until about 5pm and every weekend off!

This is just perfect for us. David hasn't had a full time job before. Don't get me wrong, he is an extremely hard worker and has worked full time hours (and the rest, 70 hour weeks were not conducive to a happy married life), but has always been classed as a "sub contractor" with the "pain in the arse" job of taking care of his own tax and super, and no paid holidays!

Now we finally both have full time jobs which means that we can start thinking about a family within the next year! I'm a little excited about that. But more so I'm excited that he is happy. He is working with people, not just on his own in a taxi, so he can make friends. He isn't working all hours of the night, I get to see him every night and every weekend! And to top it off, when the lease runs out on the place we are in, we will be moving out to the beach, I can dig that!

It feels as though a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and it is so nice to hear the confidence back in his voice, and his willingness to start a family now he feels he can provide for us.

A big THANK YOU to Aunty Chris who got him the interview, I know he had to get the job on his own merrits, but you were instrumental to getting him there, we will be forever greatful!

I love the fact that I don't have to leave a job and kids that I love, and I'm looking forward to what next year will bring (especially the whole trying for a baby thing).

The Things That Cannot be Said

I haven't updated in a while because the only thing I have had to talk about I'm not allowed to talk about at this moment in time. It is extremely frustrating because all I want to do is yell and scream and stomp my feet like a little kid, but I can't. I have to be a grown up, I have to keep my cool until the situation is dealt with, and it isn't my place to deal with it.

It made me feel sick, it has given me migraines and stomach cramps, a real kick in the guts. Worse still is that every day I have to smile and nod while inside I'm writhing and angry, frustrated and about ready to crack it and wring someone's neck. I don't of course, everything on the outside is cool, calm and collected. I'm a professional after all, professionals don't just wring someone's neck.

On the up side is that those who can deal with it are well aware and are in the process of fixing it. Meanwhile I go slowly insane, driven mad by the frustration I feel at my situation.

I long for the day I can get it all out. Not the people involved of course, but the situation. I can't wait for the day when I can happily blog about it and vent to the world.

I have known about this for a while now, so I have had some time to process, but that unfortunately puts me very much in the "angry" phase. It takes all of my strength not to crack it on a daily basis.

Smile, nod and don't make eye contact. That is my mantra. Smile, nod and don't make eye contact.

In other news I now have an iPad, which I'm typing this on right now. I can happily say that I am madly in love with this piece of technology. It also has a pink cover which is a nice happy colour that I need right now.

David got a full time job which is very exciting, and because of his new job we are moving to the beach in November/December. Ocean views here we come!



This is my cat, Cow. He was fast asleep and let me take several pictures. It made me chuckle, which I needed. So now you can chuckle too.

The First Year

I was told that the first year of marriage is hard.
I was told that it is hard because you have to get used to living with someone 24/7, you have to get used to sleeping next to someone, their habits, snoring and differing opinions etc. etc.
I was told that you really have to learn how to listen, how to express your opinions/thoughts without hurting the other person.
I was told that communication is the key, you have to become better communicators and solve problems together.
I was told that all of this is really hard.

Is it weird that I don't find this hard at all?

David and I have been married for 7 months.  We haven't had a fight, we are on the same wave length.  We enjoy each others company, and we each put the other first.

We have been together for nearly 2 years.  We haven't had a fight.

We respect each others individuality, but don't do life as individuals.  We do life together.

Maybe if we had been closer to home things would have been different.  We are in a situation where our closest friends and immediate family (I have aunties, uncles and cousins where we are living now) are far away from us.  We are really all we have (although I know if we ever needed anything one of the extended family would be here in a heartbeat).

Maybe, even though we hate being so far from home, it has been a blessing in disguise because it has really made us rely on each other.

Maybe it's because we are a bit older.  We didn't meet each other until our late 20's and now David has passed into the realm of 30's and I will be there next year.

Maybe it's because we appreciate each other and how long it took to find one another.

Maybe things will change when we have kids (it's bound to).

Whatever it is I am so very greatful for the marriage I have.  I know things will change over the years, and that I can't live in my little bubble of wedded bliss forever.  But right now, I really appreciate my husband and our life together.  I wouldn't wish for anyone else but him.

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Then again, maybe we are just the bomb-diggity.