The First Year

I was told that the first year of marriage is hard.
I was told that it is hard because you have to get used to living with someone 24/7, you have to get used to sleeping next to someone, their habits, snoring and differing opinions etc. etc.
I was told that you really have to learn how to listen, how to express your opinions/thoughts without hurting the other person.
I was told that communication is the key, you have to become better communicators and solve problems together.
I was told that all of this is really hard.

Is it weird that I don't find this hard at all?

David and I have been married for 7 months.  We haven't had a fight, we are on the same wave length.  We enjoy each others company, and we each put the other first.

We have been together for nearly 2 years.  We haven't had a fight.

We respect each others individuality, but don't do life as individuals.  We do life together.

Maybe if we had been closer to home things would have been different.  We are in a situation where our closest friends and immediate family (I have aunties, uncles and cousins where we are living now) are far away from us.  We are really all we have (although I know if we ever needed anything one of the extended family would be here in a heartbeat).

Maybe, even though we hate being so far from home, it has been a blessing in disguise because it has really made us rely on each other.

Maybe it's because we are a bit older.  We didn't meet each other until our late 20's and now David has passed into the realm of 30's and I will be there next year.

Maybe it's because we appreciate each other and how long it took to find one another.

Maybe things will change when we have kids (it's bound to).

Whatever it is I am so very greatful for the marriage I have.  I know things will change over the years, and that I can't live in my little bubble of wedded bliss forever.  But right now, I really appreciate my husband and our life together.  I wouldn't wish for anyone else but him.

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Then again, maybe we are just the bomb-diggity.

The Love Hub

Run by my AMAZING sister-in-law, The love Hub, just in its infancy is a place where people can go to find out about ways they can share the love.


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Kara (twitter: @lifeofkara): Perioperative nurse, Compassion child advocate and the mastermind behind the love hub. Her energetic and passionate drive is contagious. She has a desire to make a difference and see others inspired to the same.

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The week is nearly over.

I'm 28....29 in just over a week.  I have spent most of my adult life alone, independent.  I have been married for nearly 7 months, not an overly long time, but in that time I have lost my ability to be alone.
My husband went to visit his family this week.  Something that is important and he needed to do, but he will never be doing it alone again.
It's been a hard week.  I never knew that it was possible to miss someone so much, but a week without him has seemed like an eternity.

It's funny that we are perfectly capable of spending time alone in different parts of the house doing our own thing, but when it comes to him not being here, I really don't like it.

I like that I'm not so independent anymore.  I like that I have someone to rely on.  I like coming home to someone.

I haven't slept much, and when I do I have to go to sleep with the TV on to compensate for his snoring.  When he was working night shift I could fall asleep just fine, knowing that he would be home about 4am and I would wake up next to him.  Waking up alone sucks, I can't do it anymore.

I guess it really is true that when you love someone and get married you really do become two people living one life as one.  When the other person is gone, things just don't feel right.

I miss him so much, and it has only been a week.  I could not and don't want to imagine what life would be like without him in it.  The only thing that has gotten me through is hearing his voice every night.

I'm so excited that I get to see him tomorrow.  I'm flying down for work stuff and he will meet me at my parent's house.  We will get to celebrate my dad's birthday together, and mine, and then we will both be home again on Tuesday.

I'm glad this week is over.  Next time we are both going together when we both have time off work.

Happy Birthday

This is my Nephew William

And I shamelessly stole this picture from my sister-in-law's blog!  

He just turned 4.

And I missed it.  

I can deal with a lot of things being so far away from my family, but this has been hard.  I have never missed his birthday before.  William is such a special little man, he is so smart and kind and has such a beautiful nature.  I have enjoyed watching him grow up, and I don't want to miss a thing.  I feel sad that I have missed his birthday.  Come to mention I am sad I missed my brother's birthday too.

Daniel's birthday is a couple of days after Will's.  I don't think I have ever missed his birthday either.

Family is so important to me and I don't like missing out on the special occasions in their lives.  

I guess I took for granted living so close to my family, and now I don't have that anymore.  It isn't forever, I know that.  At the right time we will move home.  But for now this is where I am and I guess I will have to get used to missing out on the special things.

My greatest fear is that William will forget who his Aunty Kristin and Uncle Dave are.  i know he wont because he is way too smart for that, but I fear it all the same.

One blessing is that mum and dad were up that weekend so I was still able to send a present home for William and Daniel.  

Happy birthday to both of you.  Love you both.