New Year

So another year has come and gone, and way too fast for my liking! I mean seriously, where on earth did 2011 go? Here we are in 2012 another year of grand adventures! David and I didn't know what to do for new years so we ended up going to see Goatman and Jules. It was a nice laid back new years, couple of drinks and channel V haha, nice and tame in keeping with my age lol. I have a new haircut to start my year, I quite like it, David doesn't, but I had to get it shorter to undo the haircut (which wasn't all that bad according to my hairdresser) that I had given myself. It will grow again, that's what hair does.

This Sunday is our one year wedding anniversary! I can't believe that a year has gone so fast! The year has been hard in that we have moved so far away from everything we know and started new jobs etc, but I look at 2011 and I am very happy how it has all worked out, David is even happy living where we are now and with a stable, full time job. Still blows my mind that we have been married for a year, sometimes I still look at my rings and I'm shocked that I'm married. I was the girl who had given up on finding someone and getting married, thinking no one would want me, and then David came into my world and he is just amazing. This year we are going to try and start a family which is extremely exciting, I can't wait to be a mum! Happy anniversary for Sunday David, I love you so much!

A Happier Update

Apart from the last post life is pretty good. I was pretty stressed for a while because David so desperately wanted to move home. He hasn't adjusted so well to life in the Beef Capital, but then again it isn't exactly my favorite place either. This, however, is where we are at this point in time and whilst it isn't forever, it isn't such a bad life.

I have spent the majority of this school term looking for work back home. I promised David I would, so I did. Even had a few phone interviews and lots of interest. Apparently I'm "hot property". As much as I wanted David to be happy, it just didn't feel right at this point in time to move home. But he is my world and so must come first. Jobs come and go, but family is forever.

I guess God had other plans for us, because He has provided the means by which David is happy to stay, and the pressure is now off me to find work (it is easier for me to find full time work being a teacher). My wonderful, most beautiful Aunty made it possible for David to have a job interview for a Dock job (logistics), and the powers that be really liked David. He now has a full time job at Yeppoon by the beach working week days until about 5pm and every weekend off!

This is just perfect for us. David hasn't had a full time job before. Don't get me wrong, he is an extremely hard worker and has worked full time hours (and the rest, 70 hour weeks were not conducive to a happy married life), but has always been classed as a "sub contractor" with the "pain in the arse" job of taking care of his own tax and super, and no paid holidays!

Now we finally both have full time jobs which means that we can start thinking about a family within the next year! I'm a little excited about that. But more so I'm excited that he is happy. He is working with people, not just on his own in a taxi, so he can make friends. He isn't working all hours of the night, I get to see him every night and every weekend! And to top it off, when the lease runs out on the place we are in, we will be moving out to the beach, I can dig that!

It feels as though a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and it is so nice to hear the confidence back in his voice, and his willingness to start a family now he feels he can provide for us.

A big THANK YOU to Aunty Chris who got him the interview, I know he had to get the job on his own merrits, but you were instrumental to getting him there, we will be forever greatful!

I love the fact that I don't have to leave a job and kids that I love, and I'm looking forward to what next year will bring (especially the whole trying for a baby thing).

The First Year

I was told that the first year of marriage is hard.
I was told that it is hard because you have to get used to living with someone 24/7, you have to get used to sleeping next to someone, their habits, snoring and differing opinions etc. etc.
I was told that you really have to learn how to listen, how to express your opinions/thoughts without hurting the other person.
I was told that communication is the key, you have to become better communicators and solve problems together.
I was told that all of this is really hard.

Is it weird that I don't find this hard at all?

David and I have been married for 7 months.  We haven't had a fight, we are on the same wave length.  We enjoy each others company, and we each put the other first.

We have been together for nearly 2 years.  We haven't had a fight.

We respect each others individuality, but don't do life as individuals.  We do life together.

Maybe if we had been closer to home things would have been different.  We are in a situation where our closest friends and immediate family (I have aunties, uncles and cousins where we are living now) are far away from us.  We are really all we have (although I know if we ever needed anything one of the extended family would be here in a heartbeat).

Maybe, even though we hate being so far from home, it has been a blessing in disguise because it has really made us rely on each other.

Maybe it's because we are a bit older.  We didn't meet each other until our late 20's and now David has passed into the realm of 30's and I will be there next year.

Maybe it's because we appreciate each other and how long it took to find one another.

Maybe things will change when we have kids (it's bound to).

Whatever it is I am so very greatful for the marriage I have.  I know things will change over the years, and that I can't live in my little bubble of wedded bliss forever.  But right now, I really appreciate my husband and our life together.  I wouldn't wish for anyone else but him.

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Then again, maybe we are just the bomb-diggity.

The week is nearly over.

I'm 28....29 in just over a week.  I have spent most of my adult life alone, independent.  I have been married for nearly 7 months, not an overly long time, but in that time I have lost my ability to be alone.
My husband went to visit his family this week.  Something that is important and he needed to do, but he will never be doing it alone again.
It's been a hard week.  I never knew that it was possible to miss someone so much, but a week without him has seemed like an eternity.

It's funny that we are perfectly capable of spending time alone in different parts of the house doing our own thing, but when it comes to him not being here, I really don't like it.

I like that I'm not so independent anymore.  I like that I have someone to rely on.  I like coming home to someone.

I haven't slept much, and when I do I have to go to sleep with the TV on to compensate for his snoring.  When he was working night shift I could fall asleep just fine, knowing that he would be home about 4am and I would wake up next to him.  Waking up alone sucks, I can't do it anymore.

I guess it really is true that when you love someone and get married you really do become two people living one life as one.  When the other person is gone, things just don't feel right.

I miss him so much, and it has only been a week.  I could not and don't want to imagine what life would be like without him in it.  The only thing that has gotten me through is hearing his voice every night.

I'm so excited that I get to see him tomorrow.  I'm flying down for work stuff and he will meet me at my parent's house.  We will get to celebrate my dad's birthday together, and mine, and then we will both be home again on Tuesday.

I'm glad this week is over.  Next time we are both going together when we both have time off work.

Calming Down

So our horrendous week has nearly come to an end.  David is much happier seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, and him being happy makes me happy.

Yesterday was our 6 month anniversary, and even though we went away for the weekend last week, we decided we would take advantage of David's only day off this week to go to lunch together.  It was only Sizzler, but hey it got us out of the house, and me out of cooking!

In other news, I have successfully completed my first week of Uni for this Term.  I'm only doing one subject, but working full time I think this is the wisest idea, at least until I get back into "study mode".

The Subject is "Social Foundations of Psychology".  This week I learnt about Intelligence.  It really is very interesting stuff and I really am very proud of myself for organising time to watch the lecture, read my text book, complete the labs and do the study questions.

Part of our assessment every week is to take part in an eFil quiz.  Basically on Friday we answer 4 multiple choice questions, then on Saturday a forum opens so we can discuss why we chose those answers.  On Sunday we get to re-sit the same quiz.  The Sunday quiz is the one that is marked, and I am pretty confident, after going back over notes and the text that I can get 100% when Ire-sit on Sunday.  Good to know as well that other people are just as stumped over one of the questions as myself.  Makes me feel like it really is a level playing field and I can actually do well in this.

And so this is how my week ends, happy again, and very proud of myself.

A Challenging Week

This week has been rather challenging, and it is only Wednesday.  It will most likely stay this way until after Sunday, but could go on into next week.

The problem, David's work hours.

They are hard hours at the best of times.  With me working full time during the day, we don't see nearly as much of each other that we would like.  Often times he is at work when I get home and doesn't get home till 4am in the morning.  When he does works days he has to go to bed really early so he can get up at 3am to do it all again.

Needless to say, we treasure the time we have.  It is difficult being newly married and unable to spend quality time together.

This week is the killer though.  David has to work a 70 hour week.  Today he is doing a 14 hour stint, starting at 2pm till 4am, right after getting off night shift last night.  And tonight is Origin, there will be lots of drunk douche bags out and if QLD loses they will not make for happy cab rides.

David gets overwhelmed when he has to work such a mammoth week as this, and rightly so, it's not fair.  Who works a 70 hour week as a driver, with quick turn arounds from day to night?

I never knew your heart could break for someone so much.  I thought that feeling only happened once you had kids and one of the was hurting.  It's stuff like this that makes him hate where we are living now, he wants to go home.  He wants to have family and friends around him.  I want those things too, I just seem to cope better.  But I feel guilty for moving here for my work every time something like this happens and he gets stressed, overwhelmed and lonely.

It's difficult for him to make friends here because of his work hours, and driving a cab means he doesn't really have any workmates he can become friends with.  It's a lonely job.

I just wish I knew how to make it better for him.  Any ideas?

I thank God every day that I can just get on Skype and have a teary to mum any time I want to.  Thanks mummy I love you, our Skype dates are part of what gets me through each week.

Sorry if this post is kind of disjointed, I'm rather emotional at the moment and thoughts are going a million miles an hour.  Hopefully will have a much happier post for you next time.

More Weekend Photos

I promised some more so here they are.

Plants grow in the most amazing places!

From the lookout at 1770

I lost David for a minuet, turned the corner to find him up here!

Wonderful husband!

Amazing colours!

The LARC we went on for our sunset cruise 

In the water crossing over to the sandbank

Driving along the beach

About to crash into the water

We stopped so that we could watch the sunset

David and I with the LARC

A Weekend Away

So we went for a weekend away!
We both needed it I think, and it was just wonderful.
Here are some of the pictures I have edited so far.  There will be more to follow soon.

My Wonderful Husband

View on the way up to the lookout at 1770

The path up to the lookout at 1770

Our lunch time view from The Tree Cafe and Bar in 1770

Another from the Cafe

And another on a lonely little boat at low tide

Sunset on the LARC tour

And again

And again

Such a wonderful weekend...only spoilt by David's boss telling him he had to work when we got home. So now my husband is off to work a 70 hour week.  He is not happy about that! 

6 Months

I know 6 months isn't a long time, but for the girl who never thought she would get married it has been such an amazing time!

In 6 days, David and I have been married for 6 months!  I should probably write this post actually ON the anniversary, but we are going away this weekend to celebrate, so I am writing now.

Happy 6 months Baby! I love you more today than Idid on our wedding day.  I'm so proud of you, and believe in you!  I can't wait to start a family with you, and see where the rest of our lives will take us!

Here are some of my favourite photos from the wedding.  Afterwards stay tuned for our weekend getaway!

I think the smile says it all

I don't know what was said to make us laugh here but I love this picture!

Where we were supposed to "tie the knot" in the gazebo.  Unfortunately with all the rain at the start of the year we couldn't.  When I went back a few days later to collect the cake topper, this entire garden was underwater!

Chilling out after the ceremony.

The limo that brought me to the venue

My FABULOUS cake made by my cousin Kim

During the cermoney

The most PG kiss photo I had :)